Provider and Provided

In every relationship there are two roles...

1) Provider
2) Provided

In every healthy relationship the two parties will alternate in being the provider... As it is always easier and more comfortable being provided for, it is essential that each party take turns to provide for each other in order to keep each other going at their best...

The problem in many relationships is that people tend to think in the shoes of the provided... We tend to ask questions like why are we not being provided enough? Why is the other party not doing enough? It is love that makes us take on the role of the provider to ask ourselves whether there is anything more we can do for the other party.

As Martin Luther King said "Ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country" (Pardon me if I'm wrong.. I am not very knowledgeble)

The thing is... you are happiest when both parties spontaneously take on the role of the provider.. You get two happy parties both comfortably provided.. with happy surprises and reaffirmations of love...

When you are feeling upset.. sick or uncomfortable.. you tend to take on the role of the provided... You ask your friends and family why are they not doing enough for you? And you fall into self pity thinking that they do not love you..

It is a dangerous position to be... For one.. you begin the vicious cycle of "since he don't love me enough, I shall ignore him.. and not provide anymore for him." This will spiral into him reciprocating that effect and out of a sudden... You get the disaster you are asking for..

So whenever in doubt.. always assume the role of the provider... Remember.. Love is the solution to every problem...