The power of the mind

Sometimes all you need is for someone to believe in you.

This is true for everyone. We all need someone to see the good in us. It's like a magnifying glass. However small our strenghts are, as long we have that magnifying glass, we will be able to magnify our strenghts. We all need people who can see the good in us and praise us to remind us of our capabilities and strenghts. It is essential. I realise that all this while, I have been getting mean comments from people saying that I can't fight, I am slow, I am lousy, and eventually I lost all my confidence and really couldn't fight.

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I think what went wrong with me and **** was that I stopped believeing in her. Instead on focusing on her strengths, I started seeing only her flaws. And I magnified it. Like a magnifying glass, I drew out all her weaknesses and condemned her. She didn't change. She was always like that. It was my eyes that changed. My inability to love her and to magnify her strengths. It was a self fulfilling prophesy. I stopped believeing in the good of her. Instead, I was so sure that she was a hopeless case. And eventually, she lived up to my expectations.

**** is a very kind person. She hates to be mean. She is kind, patient and hardworking. The only flaw she has is that she is too perfect. She is a perfectionist. And in her quest to attain perfection, she gave birth to pride. Pride keeps her in control. She needs to feel like she is in constant control in order to feel stable. It is pride that cause her to do mean things. She knows it. And it is these mean things that hurt her conscience and haunt her.

What she doesn't know is that it is not necessary to win all the time. You can lose. In fact, losing is ok. Being bullied and victimised from time to time only humbles us and shows us how helpless we really are. We got to let go of our illusion of power. My wish for her, is for her to let go of her illusion of power and simply allow for the will of God to be manifested. If God blesses her with a difficult student, a difficult situation, I wish she would embrace it as a challenge to train her up, instead of finding means and ways to eradicate the problem, that might learn how powerful she really is. That she is in fact, capable of turning trash into treasure. She can turn the difficult situation around.

As teachers and seniors, we should always learn to cast aside our own interests. God has given us the power to touch and change lives. If used correctly, we can positively impact lives forever. Similarly, if used wrongly, we can ruin lives. Once you are in this position of authority, you must learn to think and act as a person of authority. You cannot constantly feel victimised, unappreciated and threatened by your students. Instead, in all things, deal with it from a position of seniority, like a father or mother to a child. They might behave badly or display attitude problems but do not views these as potential threats to your own well-being. Instead view them as diseases. The child only has a disease and all he needs is the right medicine, that you can dispense, to cure him. Do not be threatened by the child, instead, slowly nurse him into health.

Why do people hurt others? Most of the time, they only do so to protect themselves and those they love. This occurs when they feel threatened, hurt and victimised. Therefore, in order to prevent yourself from hurting others, you have to train your mind to STOP a negative thought from entering it. Do not be so easily threatened and victimised. Instead, rise above your situation, be steady and calm. Know that God is on your side, and you are safe by his works not yours. So you do not have to keep struggling to defend yourself. It's by God's grace.

Anyway, I cannot find it in my heart to hate them. They are fantastic people. It is just that none of us are perfect. Even they have flaws. The important thing is that they know that I have already forgiven them for everything they have done to me and that I do not condemn them. I was never ever going to hurt them, and I do not intend to do so in the future either. They do not have to see me as a threat. I love and care for people, that's what I do best. I do not enjoy or like hurting people at all.

I am sorry that I lost the ability to see the good in them. And that makes me ineligible to be near them. So it is when I finally break feel from this mental imprisonment that I will return to them and ask for genuine forgiveness. God will set a date and time. I will wait for his call. Afterall, life is like a rollercoaster, you can't control where it takes you, you can just make a conscious decision to hang on tight and stay on the ride.